It’s no doubt that I’m a big fan of Bo Sanchez and one of the best topics he has touched on is about finding the so-called one true love. He has even wrote a book about it. Why? Because he wants to help build strong families and the best way to do so is to start from the beginning. He wants to help single men and women to choose well in finding a suitable partner.
In an episode of Preacher in Blue Jeans way back in December of 2006, he shared his thoughts about finding a suitable partner to a bunch of young, single people and although Valentine’s Day is over, I think the subject in itself is not bound by any occasion. Here are my notes as I watched and listened to him (If you join KerygmaFamily.com, then, you’ll have the chance to fully access the episode or even download an mp3 version of it.):
1. Take responsibility for your future. Do not leave that to chance/fate. Do not over-spiritualize. Do not give to God the responsibility that he gave you in the first place. Options are limited.
For example, a woman sits on the sofa doing nothing/watching TV yet prays for a husband. Chances are she will be limited to 4 persons: the electricity bill collector, the phone bill collector, the mailman and the pizza delivery boy. But that same person will go great lengths in buying a pair of shoes.
Many times we choose our shoes with greater care and scrutiny than we choose our husband or wife.
2. Single men and women want to get married but their schedules are bound by routine. Most of them go to work and afterwards, head straight home although occasionally have time for prayer meetings or church but nothing goes beyond.
When these people are at home, oftentimes, they watch TV and in between commercial breaks, raid the refridgerator and eat, then back to the TV again. The thing is, the area between the TV and the ref, there are very few potential husbands (or wives) in that area.
CIRCULATE.
The problem is, if that same woman sitting in the sofa, not leaving the house, praying, “Lord, give me a husband,” and meets someone, she will immediately get the opportunity to get into a relationship with that man thinking he is the one God had chosen for her. However, in instances like finding out that this man turned out to be a violent bum or an abusive person, that woman would tend to think that she is destined to evangelize or change that person through her love. THAT’S SUICIDE.
THE MOST MISERABLE CREATURES ON PLANET EARTH = MARRIED PEOPLE WHO MARRIED THE WRONG PERSON
If you marry a violent person, or an alcoholic, or a gambler, a philanderer, an unfaithful person, it will only magnify what is already there. A wedding does not change anyone. It magnifies the weakness of the person because it’s adding to the responsibility.
USE YOUR MIND. USE YOUR INTELLECT. USE YOUR ELDERS. USE YOUR GROUP LEADERS. DO NOT JUST TRUST YOUR OWN JUDGMENT. GET A TEAM OF PEOPLE WHO WILL JOIN YOU IN PRAYING THAT YOU EACH FIND YOUR RIGHT PARTNER AS WELL AS BE EACH OTHER’S FEEDBACK.
3. CAN WOMEN MAKE THE FIRST STEP? – IF YOU CAN AVOID IT, AVOID IT FOR MEN GENETICALLY ARE CREATURES THAT LOVE TO HUNT. Men like to hunt since cavetimes.
If a single woman approaches a man and says, “I like you”, he will be flattered that somebody likes him. But study his eyes and his eyes are wandering, looking for prey beneath the bushes because it came too easy, he did not hunt. However, most men are coward hunters. Most men are afraid of rejection.
Women, learn the skill of giving him the look: “Just maybe…should you decide to pursue me, you may achieve great success.”
Remain mysterious for the guy if you want them to be attracted to you.
4. MEN, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE WHOLE COURTSHIP PROCESS.
Men, if you want the women to be attracted to you, do the hunting, be agressive, be assertive, find out what you want and go for it.
If a woman rejects you, be a man and keep at it. For how long, it’s up to you. If she’s already engaged, give up. If you see someone close to her, give up. However, if she parts ways with the other guy, then pursue. But don’t be a pest.
Well, I hope you learned a thing or two here. Honestly, that video/talk helped me a lot as far as my love life is concerned.